"There are two lasting bequests we can give our children: One is roots, the other is wings."

Hodding Carter 


If one were to drop a pebble in the water hundreds of ripples would circle on and on. Such is our desire to honour Paula's memory and to find closure. The initiatives cited on this page are reflective of the perseverance and tenacity of her family and friends in seeking out the truth. Determination is our driving force and a conviction is our goal. As you read below you will certainly garner a fuller understanding of how intensely we feel about our goal; and the more assuredly the idea will direct us along the path to fulfillment.


Feel Like Quitting? The Fern and the Bamboo.....

One day I decided to quit. I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality. I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God. "God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"


His answer surprised me..."Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?" "Yes", I replied. "When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.


"In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo". He said. "In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed but I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit." He said. "Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.


I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." He said to me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots? I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. Don't compare yourself to others." He said. "The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern, yet, they both make the forest beautiful." "Your time will come, "God said to me." You will rise high!" "How high should I rise?" I asked. "How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return. "As high as it can?" I questioned. "Yes." He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can." Never regret a day in your life. Good days give you happiness. Bad days give you experiences. Both are essential to life. Keep going….happiness keeps you sweet, trials keep you strong, sorrows keep you human, failures keep you humble, success keeps you glowing, But only God keeps you going! God is too wise to be mistaken. God is too good to be unkind...so when you don't understand, when you don't have a plan, when you can't trace the hand of God... have faith and trust the heart of God….don’t quit!